How To Demonstrate You're A Jolly Good S(p)ort And Secure Yourself A Man (Providing There Are Enough Of Them To Go Round)

How To Sit Oblivious To An Opportunity That Might Transform Your Life, But Will Never Be Repeated

(See George Gissing or Michel Houellebecq)

Heart of Stone

As George Gissing once observed - and I paraphrase - she could afford to be kind when she was financially and emotionally secure.  But it's hard to be generous when life's a bitch.